Does sex stimulate you more – and is it better for you – than exercising at the gym?

We know it can be great exercise, it gets our hearts racing, makes our knees go weak, leaves us with aching muscles, gives us that healthy glow and even occasions sudden cardiac death in some circumstances.

Great sex is going to stimulate you more and make you feel better than a gym session ever could. But does that mean we should forgo the gym for a shag? Probably not, but none-the-less I’d take the sex myself.

Which is better for you? The units of exercise required to minimise the risk of obesity, heart disease, cancer, and osteoporosis and so have been measured i

Dr Michelle Mars blogging for Sex.Scoop

Last year I did some research for Adult Match Maker and this is what we found…

Adult Match Maker, Australia’s largest adult dating site, is pleased to announce the results of its inaugural sex survey.

The results of a recent large-scale survey of Australian’s sexual habits and orientations have revealed that we are not as straight as we might think we are.

Over 7600 people completed the AMM survey. Twenty five per cent of the respondents identified as bi-sexual, 0.4% of women identified as lesbian, 1.6% of men identified as gay, and a further 5% said they are unsure about their current sexual orientation.

The lesbian and gay figures are in line with Australian population estimates however, the percentage that identify as bi-sexual or unsure far exceeds previous estimates. Australian research undertaken in 2002 (La Trobe University) and 2008 (Victorian Government) estimates the bisexual population at less the 2%.

The research also revealed that kinky sex is a popular fantasy with 60% of respondents including it as a fantasy and post Fifty Shades of Grey, it’s hardly surprising that BDSM is popular, with 30% of respondents including it in their list of sexual fantasies.

For heterosexual men looking for sexual partners there may be more competition than ever before. Thirty six per cent of women identified as bi-sexual and the heterosexual women who took part in the survey are 50% more likely than men to fantasize about women and 50% more likely to act on their fantasies.

Men have a wider range of sexual fantasies scoring higher in all categories and are more likely to be drawn to hardcore activities such as golden showers and porn. Women on the other hand are more likely to fantasize about sex toys, tantric sex and their partners. Thirty per cent of both women and men like the idea of strap-on sex.

According to Dr Mars, “Australians are more sexually curious and sexually adventurous than ever before”.

AdultMatchMaker.com.au is Australia’s largest online adult dating site with singles & couples registered! They teamed up with Dr Mars to create this survey because they wanted to peek under the covers of the average Aussie and find out what made their toes tingle.

Dr Michelle Mars is a health researcher and sexologist. She believes we need to be more light-hearted and pleasure focused in our sexual thinking. When we seriously consider sex we tend to think about health and disease rather than considering the links between sex health, mindfulness and quality of life. It’s time we started exploring and understanding our sexuality and the ways it can help us to live happier healthier lives.

Please direct further enquiries to Dr Michelle Mars

Email: info@drmichellemars.com

Phone +61 400 082 936

also see

Sex Survey Reveals Aussies’ Bucket List Of Sexual Fantasies http://shesaid.com/au/sex-survey-reveals-aussies-bucket-list-sexual-fantasies/

I have last night! We did a group massage thing. Seven of us, 2 massage tables and oceans of bliss. The thing I am really enjoying is that the bliss is still with me today to the point that I am writing the post, the first time I’ve blogged for months.

Sexual experience is so intimately connected to our sensuality but I think that in a busy world, where lives are moving fast, we often lose sight of our bodies aside from a quick bonk when the time is right (and its Business Time) . Sometimes it can be hard to let boundaries go and explore, it’s just not a big part of ‘western’ culture.  In fact we’re culturally programmed to be suspicious of sensuality. When I was first invited to a group massage experience I was vaguely creeped out!  Was this going to be some kind of weird cult-ish experience? So it was with a sense of mild curiosity and the hope that I wouldn’t scream ‘get your hands off me’ and stomp off that I entered the room.

I didn’t freak out and the first experience was interesting in a weird kind of way. I walked into a room of about 20 people I didn’t know, candles glowing, heaters blowing, it was warm and friendly right from the start. People of different ages, sizes and shapes all together in one room with the purpose of getting naked and massaging eachother. We sat around and introduced ourselves and talked about what the group was: a few people getting together once a month to practice sensual (not sexual) massage. People said what they wanted and the rules where agreed upon.  Sensual rather than hard massage strokes, ‘my breasts are part of my body but I don’t want to be sexually stimulated’, ‘if you get a hard on it’s not a problem’,’ if you brush sexual organs  inadvertently  just carry on’,  and so on. We had about 20 minute sessions each. 3 people got on massage tables and the rest of us took turns massaging them.  After about the second person when I had relaxed I got into this really cool head space.  It was one of those moments when I felt like I learned something but not in words so putting it in words is also difficult.  But there is something about several people giving you their energy  and about you working with a few people to give someone else a blissful experience that feels good for the soul.  I slept like a baby that night.

I slept like a baby again last night and had amazing sex this morning and I’ve been blissed all day since.  In my experience of being part of the other group it just gets better as the energy builds, the expectations come into line and everyone gets comfortable.  I’m looking forward to more of the same.

Has anyone else had interesting sensual experiences?

Dr Michelle Mars is a free lance sexologist living in Sydney. She can be contacted on +614000 82936or info@drmichellemars.com

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Wellington’s very own fetish ball will be held for the second time on the 28th of August this year at the Garden Club. The first one, held a couple of years ago was fabulous. The acts held me spell bound and between acts there was plenty to entertain too.

Sometimes we hesitate to try something new because we don’t know what to expect. So I am going to tell you exactly what you can expect to see , hear, experience and feel.

And if you want to see a little more about what kink culture is about you can see a recent 20/20 story…..http://tvnz.co.nz/20-20-news/pleasure-and-pain-kink-3697399/video

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A Sydney client sent me a book called Kink to review.

I waited with eager anticipation for this book. A Sydney  journalist spends  four years of her life talking to people and researching fetish and kink. Read more »

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Usually when I get approached to comment on things sexual in the media the topic is quite vanilla but things have got a little kinkier for me over the last couple of weeks. 60 minutes interviewed me about swinging and gang bangs and one of my clients sent me a book about Kink culture in Sydney to review. Read more »

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Are you looking for something new and inspired token for Valentine’s day?  Do you want to send something creatively saucy to your lover?  Do you want to send something anonymously? KevRed has the perfect Valentines Day Card for you.

After spending several hours looking at a tiled graphic on a T-shirt I finally realised I was looking at something sexual and it made me smile. Here is the history of KevRed’s ‘At Random’ Graphics.

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