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Gender Bending, the Lesbian Hierarchy and Trans Cool

0:25 September 01st, 2011

70’s feminism bought with it the idea that women could be just as powerful as men. Not a bad politics at the time but. What ended up happening was a hierarchy of oppression where those with the most oppressions were accorded the most privileged position. At a feminist conference a workshop was undertaken where you got a chocolate biscuit for every oppression you experienced. She with the largest pile of chocolate biscuits, poor, disabled, lesbian, in an interracial partnership…  won.  But what would those 70’s lesbians have made of transsexuals, would they have been welcomed to privileged end of the lesbian hierarchy? or would they have been accorded the status that went with heterosexual privilege, access to better jobs, bank loans, credit card…? Who know’s trans politics wasn’t out there yet, but I suspect, if they had been allowed to come to the conference at all ( and in many cases they still are not, any more than any kind of queer heterosexuality makes it onto the tropical fruits agenda) they would have been kept firmly outside the magic central circle.   It’s all not very radical politics really. All it says is you’ve got to be the same as me to be part of my group. No more radical than the privilege accorded to white middle class males in 1970’s.

In the transsexual community, it seems to me,  being as close to a genetic girl as possible is the privileged position. I understand this. Gay men only have to come out once, when they tell their friends and family. Transexuals on the other hand come out every time they go out. No wonder passing as a woman is so important. The closer you look to a genetic girl the easier it is.  But what I have got to say and I want to say it really clearly is that it’s time for trans cool politics.  Personally, I love gender play, gender bending.

Linda Karen in this photo also looks fabulous, yes it’s a totally girl look but even without the hair and make up the pleasure of expressing herself in an appropriate gender position I am sure would shine through.  I guess what I am trying to say is that gender is more than how you look and my trans friends can be totally fem without even lifting a mascara wand.  It’s time those old hierarchies were laid to rest girls.

Linda Karen doing girl in Boy Mode

 

What do you girls think?Is there more to doing girl than genetic girl mode? Is there more to being a girl than walking the walk, talking the talk and wearing make up?

Dr Michelle Mars is a free lance sexologist living in Sydney. You can contact her on 0415768084 or Michelle@sassi-inc.com

Michelle Mars on 20/20 and on Sixty Minutes

11:23 July 29th, 2010

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It’s time to enjoy getting kinky: Wellington Fetish Ball 2010

11:42 July 22nd, 2010

Dr Michelle Mars Sex.Scoop.Co.NZ +64 21 979 373

Wellington’s very own fetish ball will be held for the second time on the 28th of August this year at the Garden Club. The first one, held a couple of years ago was fabulous. The acts held me spell bound and between acts there was plenty to entertain too.

Sometimes we hesitate to try something new because we don’t know what to expect. So I am going to tell you exactly what you can expect to see , hear, experience and feel.

And if you want to see a little more about what kink culture is about you can see a recent 20/20 story…..http://tvnz.co.nz/20-20-news/pleasure-and-pain-kink-3697399/video

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Kink: A straight girls investigation by Stephanie Clifford-Smith

11:53 May 15th, 2010

Dr Michelle Mars, Wellington Sexologist,  writing for Scoop on Sex.Scoop.Co.NZ

A Sydney client sent me a book called Kink to review.

I waited with eager anticipation for this book. A Sydney  journalist spends  four years of her life talking to people and researching fetish and kink. Read more »

‘The Perfect Vagina’ documentary rides again

12:49 May 14th, 2010

By Dr Michelle Mars

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The vagina. We are all fascinated by it but we don’t really like to think about much less talk about the ins and outs of our ladies front bottoms. Anything that is forbidden tends to fascinate so perhaps that’s why this week we got to see a documentary that explores that very thing for the second time.  Well actually it’s about the vulva, that is, the bits on the outside that we can see. But that’s just splitting hairs. If there are any hairs there that is. Read more »

60 minutes, Swinging and Kink

15:32 March 08th, 2010

Dr Michelle Mars, Sexologist for Sex.Scoop.Co.NZ

Usually when I get approached to comment on things sexual in the media the topic is quite vanilla but things have got a little kinkier for me over the last couple of weeks. 60 minutes interviewed me about swinging and gang bangs and one of my clients sent me a book about Kink culture in Sydney to review. Read more »

Kev Red’s Fantastic Sexy Valentine’s Day Cards

18:57 February 01st, 2010

Michelle Mars Ph.D. Writing for Scoop at Sex.Scoop.Co.NZ

Are you looking for something new and inspired token for Valentine’s day?  Do you want to send something creatively saucy to your lover?  Do you want to send something anonymously? KevRed has the perfect Valentines Day Card for you.

After spending several hours looking at a tiled graphic on a T-shirt I finally realised I was looking at something sexual and it made me smile. Here is the history of KevRed’s ‘At Random’ Graphics.

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FemFresh Research: Women lack confidence in bed

14:32 September 26th, 2009

FemFresh Research: Women lack confidence in bed

By Dr. Michelle Mars

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Recent research done by Femfresh, a company that sells… ‘a range of feminine hygiene products, designed especially for women, to help you stay clean and fresh from am to pm’, showed that women lack confidence in bed.

It’s hardly surprising that research done by a company that sells feminine hygiene products would come to this conclusion. These guys are experts in the sexual self confidence market. However, the Femfresh research finding to hit the news does not relate to feminine hygiene, it relates to drinking. Femfresh found that women drink before sex. (See Rebecca Lewis’ article in the Herald on Sunday) Read more »

What is sex.scoop and who are we

15:46 July 20th, 2009

The Scoop.Sex Channel

Hi and Welcome to sex.scoop. We are Dr Michelle Mars and Blair Bishop and we are here because we love talking about that ever controversial subject SEX. We’re really excited to be here and we’re looking forward to blogging about the ever unfolding sexual landscape.

Sex is everywhere, we see it in text and images all the time but we hardly ever scratch below the surface. Blair and I are here to do a little scratching with you. Sex is not stupid! Just because it can be fun and frivolous it doesn’t mean we can’t think about it deeply and that’s what we are going to do here.

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Dr Michelle Mars (left) & Blair Bishop (right)
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Dr Michelle Mars: The Perfect Vagina

15:44 July 20th, 2009

The Perfect Vagina

By Dr Michelle Mars

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TV One’s screening ‘The Perfect Vagina’ documentary exposed New Zealand to the ins and outs of vaginal augmentation.

The vagina has made its way out of the pornographic sphere and into the main stream. The more we get a look at the vagina, be it a quick flash from Britney or Paris, or a well lit and carefully rendered scene from a movie, the more standardised and unrealistic our ideas about whats normal become.

Women often take pictures of pornstar vaginas to their surgeon’s office. The real absurdity here is that porno vaginas like porno breasts tend to have been crafted by the surgeons knife in the first place.

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