Dr Michelle Mars blogging for Sex.Scoop

Last year I did some research for Adult Match Maker and this is what we found…

Adult Match Maker, Australia’s largest adult dating site, is pleased to announce the results of its inaugural sex survey.

The results of a recent large-scale survey of Australian’s sexual habits and orientations have revealed that we are not as straight as we might think we are.

Over 7600 people completed the AMM survey. Twenty five per cent of the respondents identified as bi-sexual, 0.4% of women identified as lesbian, 1.6% of men identified as gay, and a further 5% said they are unsure about their current sexual orientation.

The lesbian and gay figures are in line with Australian population estimates however, the percentage that identify as bi-sexual or unsure far exceeds previous estimates. Australian research undertaken in 2002 (La Trobe University) and 2008 (Victorian Government) estimates the bisexual population at less the 2%.

The research also revealed that kinky sex is a popular fantasy with 60% of respondents including it as a fantasy and post Fifty Shades of Grey, it’s hardly surprising that BDSM is popular, with 30% of respondents including it in their list of sexual fantasies.

For heterosexual men looking for sexual partners there may be more competition than ever before. Thirty six per cent of women identified as bi-sexual and the heterosexual women who took part in the survey are 50% more likely than men to fantasize about women and 50% more likely to act on their fantasies.

Men have a wider range of sexual fantasies scoring higher in all categories and are more likely to be drawn to hardcore activities such as golden showers and porn. Women on the other hand are more likely to fantasize about sex toys, tantric sex and their partners. Thirty per cent of both women and men like the idea of strap-on sex.

According to Dr Mars, “Australians are more sexually curious and sexually adventurous than ever before”.

AdultMatchMaker.com.au is Australia’s largest online adult dating site with singles & couples registered! They teamed up with Dr Mars to create this survey because they wanted to peek under the covers of the average Aussie and find out what made their toes tingle.

Dr Michelle Mars is a health researcher and sexologist. She believes we need to be more light-hearted and pleasure focused in our sexual thinking. When we seriously consider sex we tend to think about health and disease rather than considering the links between sex health, mindfulness and quality of life. It’s time we started exploring and understanding our sexuality and the ways it can help us to live happier healthier lives.

Please direct further enquiries to Dr Michelle Mars

Email: info@drmichellemars.com

Phone +61 400 082 936

also see

Sex Survey Reveals Aussies’ Bucket List Of Sexual Fantasies http://shesaid.com/au/sex-survey-reveals-aussies-bucket-list-sexual-fantasies/

What does it mean if you are transgender and you exist somewhere between girl and boy, equally as comfortable in both modes but never fully one or the other?

From a trans politics perspective it’s a bit tricky but history gives us a few clues about where trans politics is at right now. Identity politics through history, whether it be feminist, disability, sexuality or ethnicity has tended to follow a similar pathway. 70’s feminism brought with it the idea that hairy legs and underarms are okay and that women could be just as powerful as men. Not bad politics at the time but what ended up happening was a hierarchy of oppression. Each oppression got you higher up the ladder of authenicity. At an early 80’s feminist conference workshop an exercise was undertaken. You got a chocolate biscuit for each oppression you experienced. She with the largest pile of chocolate biscuits, for example the low income, disabled, lesbian, in an interracial partnership… won.

What would those conference participants have made of  transgendered people? Would they have been welcomed to the oppressed, therefore good, end of the hierarchy or would they, like the middle class  conference delegates, have been pushed way down the bad  end?  Who knows, trans politics wasn’t out there yet, but I suspect back in those days, with all the vagina in the mirror gazing, the lack of a biological vjj might have been a problem. If transgendered girls had been allowed to come to the conference at all (and in many cases they still are not) they would have  been dowb the bad end of the continuim.

In the transsexual community, it seems to me, passing as a genetic girl  is the privileged position. I understand this.  Doing another gender and passing one way or another is time consuming, emotionally challenging and not an easy thing to achieve.  But what about all those people who will never pass? Simple things like going to the gender segregated toilets can become a massive issue. No wonder passing as a woman is so important.

Personally I think that it’s time for a more trans-cool politics, more gender play,  gender bending and talking to each other.  The LBGTI rainbow needs to keep on growing and changing we need to keep questioning and moving on.

Gender play is more than how you look, my girlfriends can go totally fem without even lifting a mascara wand or a shaver sometimes. I think it’s time some of those old hierarchies and binaries were laid to rest.

What do you think? Is there more to doing girl than looking like a genetic girl? Is there more to being a girl than walking the walk, talking the talk and wearing make up?

Dr Michelle Mars is a sexologist living in Sydney. You can contact her on +61 4000 82 936 or info@drmichellemars.com  consults (ladies high tea in the dungeon) $120

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Wellington’s very own fetish ball will be held for the second time on the 28th of August this year at the Garden Club. The first one, held a couple of years ago was fabulous. The acts held me spell bound and between acts there was plenty to entertain too.

Sometimes we hesitate to try something new because we don’t know what to expect. So I am going to tell you exactly what you can expect to see , hear, experience and feel.

And if you want to see a little more about what kink culture is about you can see a recent 20/20 story…..http://tvnz.co.nz/20-20-news/pleasure-and-pain-kink-3697399/video

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A Sydney client sent me a book called Kink to review.

I waited with eager anticipation for this book. A Sydney  journalist spends  four years of her life talking to people and researching fetish and kink. Read more »

 

The vagina. We are all fascinated by it but we don’t really like to think about much less talk about the ins and outs of our ladies front bottoms. Anything that is forbidden tends to fascinate so perhaps that’s why this week we got to see a documentary that explores that very thing for the second time.  Well actually it’s about the vulva, that is, the bits on the outside that we can see. But that’s just splitting hairs. If there are any hairs there that is. Read more »

Dr Michelle Mars, Sexologist for Sex.Scoop.Co.NZ

Usually when I get approached to comment on things sexual in the media the topic is quite vanilla but things have got a little kinkier for me over the last couple of weeks. 60 minutes interviewed me about swinging and gang bangs and one of my clients sent me a book about Kink culture in Sydney to review. Read more »

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Are you looking for something new and inspired token for Valentine’s day?  Do you want to send something creatively saucy to your lover?  Do you want to send something anonymously? KevRed has the perfect Valentines Day Card for you.

After spending several hours looking at a tiled graphic on a T-shirt I finally realised I was looking at something sexual and it made me smile. Here is the history of KevRed’s ‘At Random’ Graphics.

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FemFresh Research: Women lack confidence in bed

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Recent research done by Femfresh, a company that sells… ‘a range of feminine hygiene products, designed especially for women, to help you stay clean and fresh from am to pm’, showed that women lack confidence in bed.

It’s hardly surprising that research done by a company that sells feminine hygiene products would come to this conclusion. These guys are experts in the sexual self confidence market. However, the Femfresh research finding to hit the news does not relate to feminine hygiene, it relates to drinking. Femfresh found that women drink before sex. (See Rebecca Lewis’ article in the Herald on Sunday) Read more »

The Scoop.Sex Channel

Hi and Welcome to sex.scoop. I am Dr Michelle Mars and I am here because I love talking about that ever controversial subject SEX. I’m  excited to be here and looking forward to blogging about the ever unfolding sexual landscape.

Sex is everywhere, we see it in text and images all the time but we hardly ever scratch below the surface. I am here to do a little scratching with you. Sex is not stupid! Just because it can be fun and frivolous it doesn’t mean we can’t think about it deeply and that’s what I am going to do here.

Dr Michelle MarsIn this blog I am going to look at all things sexual and sexy. I am going to look at the art and style of sex as well as politics and policy around topical issues. I’m  interested in identity, fashion, culture, books and much more.People are starting to take sex more seriously. We want to know more about sex.

If there is one thing that spending years as an academic working in a University taught me it’s that there is a lot more to know about achieving well being, pleasure and respect when it comes to sex. People have been fascinated by the subject for centuries. The amount information we have access to is endless. You could spend your whole life reading about sex and there would still be more to find out. I think sex is endlessly fascinating!

 

Michelle is a sexologist. She founded Sassi-Inc in December 2008 to enlighten and enrich the Kiwi sexual experience. “I say, lets talk about sex. Let’s get it out there on the table and let’s start having much more fun”.

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