Dr Michelle Mars blogging for Sex.Scoop

Last year I did some research for Adult Match Maker and this is what we found…

Adult Match Maker, Australia’s largest adult dating site, is pleased to announce the results of its inaugural sex survey.

The results of a recent large-scale survey of Australian’s sexual habits and orientations have revealed that we are not as straight as we might think we are.

Over 7600 people completed the AMM survey. Twenty five per cent of the respondents identified as bi-sexual, 0.4% of women identified as lesbian, 1.6% of men identified as gay, and a further 5% said they are unsure about their current sexual orientation.

The lesbian and gay figures are in line with Australian population estimates however, the percentage that identify as bi-sexual or unsure far exceeds previous estimates. Australian research undertaken in 2002 (La Trobe University) and 2008 (Victorian Government) estimates the bisexual population at less the 2%.

The research also revealed that kinky sex is a popular fantasy with 60% of respondents including it as a fantasy and post Fifty Shades of Grey, it’s hardly surprising that BDSM is popular, with 30% of respondents including it in their list of sexual fantasies.

For heterosexual men looking for sexual partners there may be more competition than ever before. Thirty six per cent of women identified as bi-sexual and the heterosexual women who took part in the survey are 50% more likely than men to fantasize about women and 50% more likely to act on their fantasies.

Men have a wider range of sexual fantasies scoring higher in all categories and are more likely to be drawn to hardcore activities such as golden showers and porn. Women on the other hand are more likely to fantasize about sex toys, tantric sex and their partners. Thirty per cent of both women and men like the idea of strap-on sex.

According to Dr Mars, “Australians are more sexually curious and sexually adventurous than ever before”.

AdultMatchMaker.com.au is Australia’s largest online adult dating site with singles & couples registered! They teamed up with Dr Mars to create this survey because they wanted to peek under the covers of the average Aussie and find out what made their toes tingle.

Dr Michelle Mars is a health researcher and sexologist. She believes we need to be more light-hearted and pleasure focused in our sexual thinking. When we seriously consider sex we tend to think about health and disease rather than considering the links between sex health, mindfulness and quality of life. It’s time we started exploring and understanding our sexuality and the ways it can help us to live happier healthier lives.

Please direct further enquiries to Dr Michelle Mars

Email: info@drmichellemars.com

Phone +61 400 082 936

also see

Sex Survey Reveals Aussies’ Bucket List Of Sexual Fantasies http://shesaid.com/au/sex-survey-reveals-aussies-bucket-list-sexual-fantasies/

I have last night! We did a group massage thing. Seven of us, 2 massage tables and oceans of bliss. The thing I am really enjoying is that the bliss is still with me today to the point that I am writing the post, the first time I’ve blogged for months.

Sexual experience is so intimately connected to our sensuality but I think that in a busy world, where lives are moving fast, we often lose sight of our bodies aside from a quick bonk when the time is right (and its Business Time) . Sometimes it can be hard to let boundaries go and explore, it’s just not a big part of ‘western’ culture.  In fact we’re culturally programmed to be suspicious of sensuality. When I was first invited to a group massage experience I was vaguely creeped out!  Was this going to be some kind of weird cult-ish experience? So it was with a sense of mild curiosity and the hope that I wouldn’t scream ‘get your hands off me’ and stomp off that I entered the room.

I didn’t freak out and the first experience was interesting in a weird kind of way. I walked into a room of about 20 people I didn’t know, candles glowing, heaters blowing, it was warm and friendly right from the start. People of different ages, sizes and shapes all together in one room with the purpose of getting naked and massaging eachother. We sat around and introduced ourselves and talked about what the group was: a few people getting together once a month to practice sensual (not sexual) massage. People said what they wanted and the rules where agreed upon.  Sensual rather than hard massage strokes, ‘my breasts are part of my body but I don’t want to be sexually stimulated’, ‘if you get a hard on it’s not a problem’,’ if you brush sexual organs  inadvertently  just carry on’,  and so on. We had about 20 minute sessions each. 3 people got on massage tables and the rest of us took turns massaging them.  After about the second person when I had relaxed I got into this really cool head space.  It was one of those moments when I felt like I learned something but not in words so putting it in words is also difficult.  But there is something about several people giving you their energy  and about you working with a few people to give someone else a blissful experience that feels good for the soul.  I slept like a baby that night.

I slept like a baby again last night and had amazing sex this morning and I’ve been blissed all day since.  In my experience of being part of the other group it just gets better as the energy builds, the expectations come into line and everyone gets comfortable.  I’m looking forward to more of the same.

Has anyone else had interesting sensual experiences?

Dr Michelle Mars is a free lance sexologist living in Sydney. She can be contacted on +614000 82936or info@drmichellemars.com

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FemFresh Research: Women lack confidence in bed

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Recent research done by Femfresh, a company that sells… ‘a range of feminine hygiene products, designed especially for women, to help you stay clean and fresh from am to pm’, showed that women lack confidence in bed.

It’s hardly surprising that research done by a company that sells feminine hygiene products would come to this conclusion. These guys are experts in the sexual self confidence market. However, the Femfresh research finding to hit the news does not relate to feminine hygiene, it relates to drinking. Femfresh found that women drink before sex. (See Rebecca Lewis’ article in the Herald on Sunday) Read more »

Men like Breasts

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Men like to look at boobies. There is scientific proof . It’s official. Read more »

A beautiful erotic meal should take you on a sensual journey tantalizing the senses and engaging the body and mind.

The perfect erotic picnic

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A beautiful erotic meal should take you on a sensual journey. It should be nourishing, satisfying and add to a sexy experience. It needs to stimulate the senses. A variety of textures, temperatures, and tastes inspires sensuality. Think, sweet, spicy, silky, slippery and seductive. Food in itself is evocative of sex, and an erotic meal is an aphrodisiac.

My inspiration for this picnic is a presentation I saw at the 2007 World Sexology Conference called ‘In Search of the Perfect Erotic Meal’.

Here is a plan for an erotic picnic. This can be a traditional picnic outside somewhere but it can also be a picnic in front of the fireplace or in your own bed. You can also pack an erotic picnic lunch or dinner and take your sweetie away somewhere new for the night.  See us talking about sexy food on TV1 Read more »

The Sex.Scoop Weekly sex tip.

It started with a kiss

By Dr Michelle Mars

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Remember how exciting a kiss was when you were a teenager discovering sex? Or that, ‘you’re so lovely, I want to kiss you’ feeling you felt with a new partner. Or even the last time you watched two people kissing in a movie. Slow down and really think about that kiss. The feel of the lips, the taste of the tongue. Is your mouth watering yet? Mine is as I write this.

The arousal factor is the great thing about kisses, they get us in the mood for love, they make us feel sexy, they entice us down a pleasurable path. A kiss communicates our level of desire and arousal. There is nothing like an erotic kiss to really get the juices flowing and juiciness is vital for fabulous sex.

Kisses are amazing and too often in sex we don’t give them enough consideration. If you want to be a better kisser watch us on Goodmorning TV.  Read more »